My favourite Frank song.
03/24/16
You kinda just have to let go.
As complicated and as hard that is to do.. It’s one of those things that people just overthink about all the time… “letting go” … If someone were to tell you to let go of someone [whether it may be an ex friend or an ex relationship for example] you would probably think something along the lines of “they have no idea how hard it is to let go” OR “it’s easier said than done” OR “I am not ready to”… Right?…. I know… It’s hard, it sucks. It’s hard to imagine life without that ONE particular person that for some time in your life, made you the happiest person in the world. But.. For some particular reason, they’re not in your life anymore because they hurt you. And it’s crazy to you because you never thought that the ONE person that would NEVER hurt you, did. They made you laugh, they made you feel protected, they made you feel at home, and they made you feel loved… You did so many things with them, everyday texts, calls, lunches, everything… To the point that you forget what it’s like to be without the person. You’re so use to them that it becomes a point where you start to depend on that person for happiness.
But now.. They’re not in your life the way that they use to be anymore, you stop texting them as much and calling them and hanging out with them.. And you don’t know what to do.. You don’t know how to feel… You just feel trapped, you feel as if there’s nothing in the world that will make that sadness go away.. That emptiness in your heart because they’re not in your life anymore..
Babe, it’s okay. ITS OKAY. I promise, things will be okay. Has anyone ever told you that? But like REALLY meant it?. That things will be okay?.. Let me explain to you, what I really mean, when things will be okay… Let’s start with the problem. To solve the problem. You have to understand the problem. REALLY understand the problem… The problem is not you, don’t you ever, EVER think that you’re the problem. NEVER. You’re not the problem. The problem is them. THEY let YOU go. The problem is that for some damn reason, they suddenly decided that they did not want you in their life. They suddenly decided that you were not worth fighting for. THEY BROKE YOU.. You try and try and TRY to figure out what in the world you did wrong for them not to love you the way you loved them. You gotta remember that. THEY BROKE YOU. So why, tell me why, you’re still trying to reach out to them? I’ll tell you why, Because you miss them. You might not understand this right now, but you were USE TO that person.. One day you will realize that you spent so much time with them that you suddenly you have moments that you think “maybe I don’t really like them” you know? But you convince yourself that you do, because of everything that you’ve been through..
So enough talk about the problem, I think we get it a little more. Let’s talk about a solution. How to let go. Well, my friend, let’s think about the big picture here.. YOU. You’re beautiful, you’re amazing, you’re strong.. You’ve been through so much in your life that nobody else has gone through.. You have the biggest heart. When you love, you love hard, and purely. You don’t care what other people say, you LOVE. Unfortunately, you gave your heart to someone that did not appreciate it. but.. Life. Goes. On. First step is to cut the person out of your life COMPLETELY. Stop the communication. Stop trying to figure out what is going on in their life. Because now, they’re nobody to you. They’re not your distant aunt that you check up on her to see how she doing just because she’s your aunt. The good news is that the person that hurt you, does not have to be in your life anymore. Okay. So now that you have stopped the communication, take time to mourn. Take time to cry, to be angry, to be on your own, all of that. To let go of your emotions. The first step into moving on I think, is to cry. Don’t hold it in.
You kinda just have to let them go.
One day, in the midst of your pain, you’re going to wake up and realize that you’re not the same person that you were when you met them. You have different goals, different opinions, a different mindset, a more grown up mindset. You’re not the same younger version of you that you were two months, two years than when you first met that person. One day, in the midst of your pain, you’re going to wake up and realize it’s a different day. It’s a new day. You will realize that you are tired of being sad and worrying. You will see that it’s a new day, the sun has risen again, and it is a new chance for you to be happy. You need to CHOOSE happiness. Stop dwelling in the past. Let. It. Go. You will say “wow, I was mourning over THEM?! Pshhhh.. I’m freaking AWESOME. I’m BEAUTIFUL! I have way more important things to worry about” and you’re right! You ARE.
So go out, and enjoy the beautiful life that has been given to you. Accomplish your goals, focus on your work, or school, or your unfinished art project, or learn the piano if that’s what you always wanted to do, or start saving up to go to that ocean you’ve always wanted to go to. You’re young. You have many, MANY years ahead of you, two months, two years is NOTHING in time compared to the rest of your life. Your life does not have to depend on you being sad over someone, rather than your life should depend on you always striving to be a better person. Help the ones in need, help the ones that are sad, help the ones that need someone. Because you’re a strong person. The world needs you. You’re life up to this point has been preparing you for your future. You have a PURPOSE in this world, you’ve let go of the pain, go out and fulfill that purpose.
Old blog… can’t wait to start blogging again and telling you all about everything that’s been going on. New blog coming soon! Good things have come!! God is good!!
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